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06:24 pm: Sigh.
My former co-worker and really good friend was in a bad car accident a couple of days ago. She did some major damage to her knee which had to completely be replaced and she's going to have a very long recovery ahead of her during which time she won't be able to work or go back to school. She's still in the hospital and probably will be through the weekend and perhaps into next week. She has a three year old autistic daughter and an infant son and her husband works full-time, but I don't think he makes quite enough to keep them going until she's back on her feet again. I'd like to do something for her, but I don't want to do something as overt as giving her money, although I know she and her family could probably use it now. I just got a bonus check from work and I would love to just cash it and give it to her, but she's the type who would be very embarassed to accept a gift like that and I certainly don't want to do anything to make her feel insulted or offended.

She's a very good friend and I want to do something for her, I'm just not quite sure what...

I'd really appreciate ideas from folks of what would be nice, but not insulting...


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Date:February 9th, 2006 11:46 pm (UTC)
You could purchase a gift card to a grocery store and enclose it in a card with an inspirational message. You could likely have other folks in your office sign it if you're worried she won't accept a gift, singularly.

Less personal guilt if it's coming from a group of people.

And the gift card is less intimidating than cash.

*hugs you tightly*
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Date:February 10th, 2006 12:05 am (UTC)
There is also the possibility of hiring a cleaning lady for a day, or two, for them. This is, of course, assuming you know the state of the house already, and feel ok with sending a cleaner over there. I'm sure the husband particularly would appreciate that help as well. Also perhaps instead of a gift card from one store, maybe a series of gift cards and such from various restaraunts around town, so hubby doesn't have to come home and cook dinner for the childrens, or himself. I know this might sound centered more on him, but most mommies are better able to relax when they can see their brood struggling less at home.
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Date:February 10th, 2006 12:15 am (UTC)
I'm a horrible gift buyer, so I have nothing to offer. Perhaps an aromatherapy kit would help. It would certainly make her feel better and maybe speed up the healing process.
Date:February 10th, 2006 05:45 pm (UTC)
I agree with the gift card ideas, I have a co-worker that had a heart attack and was thrown into emergency triple bypass surgery...yeah, scared the hell out of all of us. She has a long road to recovery and is not doing well, so I checked with my HR department because our company has paid charity days. They are letting one person every other day take a paid charity dy to go over and either do some basic cleaning to her house or get some groceries. Also, I have set up where she makes a list of a few groceries she needs every week and between the 4 people in our department and a few in the other ones, we all throw in a few bucks and buy the groceries for her and bring them to her. Something as simple as stopping by to do a load of laundry or bringing some heat up caseroles-sp? are great for a downed family! Especially if she's not one to accept money straight out. Hope this helps....didn't mean to go on and on though! lol!
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